A step in the right direction

[Aggie]

I guess most men think that there is a natural size in harmony with a specific body and that attractivity goes down when the deviation is too big.

I would agree.  Proportion and compatibility with overall body type is probably the biggest for me.  It's an aesthetic pattern that carries out across many different body aesthetics.

Girls performing well in maths and science is a prerequisite for me. Having an interest in history and nature doesn't go down badly either. Boobs are neither here nor there, if you know what I mean. Not to say that i'm not fascinated with them, like most straight men, just that they are secondary.

Ayuh, aesthetics aside, intelligence is a much bigger marker of attractiveness than physical attributes for me.  Physical attractiveness doesn't hurt, though.

I was a bit surprised that I like large breasts, once encountered.  I vaguely suspected I wouldn't.   I know for sure that my tastes have changed to prefer a more womanly body type as I've gotten older. I used to like the thin look better when I was a skinny post-adolescent. Now that I'm a skinny adult, I like the look of a woman with some curves.  That's still relative to overall body type; it's not a matter of measurements.


I admit to being a great enthusiast of the aesthetics of the female body.  I like girlwatching, just looking with no attached intent or specific desire.  Variety's the spice of it, just like life.

[Roland Deschain]

To be provocative: How many people consider Keira Knightley to be ugly because she is clearly lacking in that department and how many would change their mind, if she suddenly developed king-sized* mammaries?

I like Keira Knightley, and think that her body is in proportion. I don't think larger breasts would suit her frame at all. I also think Nigella Lawson looks great too. Yet another person in proportion. Trust me, Swato, once you have the opportunity to engage with a woman, you'll grow ( ) to love breasts of all types.

I find that I don't have a narrow "like" in regards to women, just that they be intelligent enough for me to converse with on a level(ish) field, but looks do certainly factor into it. Redheads, though...

As for the ageing aspect of taste, it has certainly broadened as i've aged. I still find young women attractive, as one 23 year old lady last year can attest to, but my upper age limit has certainly risen quite dramatically since I left my teens. Saying that, I had a 40 year old proposition me when I was in my mid-twenties. Her own kids weren't that younger than me, but I was sorely tempted even then.

[Griffin NoName]

I seem to have specialised in men 10 years younger than me (note to self: must get hair dyed again). Dating agencies have consistently had complaints about me being too intellectual (not that I've used them a lot but had some interesting adventures).

[Roland Deschain]

I seem to have specialised in men 10 years younger than me (note to self: must get hair dyed again). Dating agencies have consistently had complaints about me being too intellectual (not that I've used them a lot but had some interesting adventures).

So you like a toyboy, eh?

Too intellectual? As in you won't talk about Eastenders or I'm A Celebrity? This is what's wrong with the world.

[Aggie]

I've taken the approach with regards to dating at this point, that if someone isn't attracted to who I am as a person, then to heck with them.  I'm very enthusiastic with regards to self-improvement, but not going to dumb myself down or hide the fact that I'm an eccentric with a potential romantic partner.  I like eccentrics too, so it's not much of a worry. Meeting another one is usually a good excuse to relax the usual day-to-day act of playing normal.

I'm not a Normal Person, but I play one on TV.  

I've also found the key to getting any partner you want:  I only want the ones I can get.    If they aren't interested, it's one less person to waste any mindspace on.  I'm content enough to let people pass by, or make conscious decisions that someone is compatible but best approached as a friend rather than a romantic encounter, when the situation demands it. At the moment, I'm in a holding pattern and it'd take a pretty exceptional person to nudge me out of that.

Then again, I'm young enough to be patient and getting better looking on a continuous basis (for now ). Ymmv.

[Griffin NoName]

I seem to have specialised in men 10 years younger than me (note to self: must get hair dyed again). Dating agencies have consistently had complaints about me being too intellectual (not that I've used them a lot but had some interesting adventures).

So you like a toyboy, eh?

Too intellectual? As in you won't talk about Eastenders or I'm A Celebrity? This is what's wrong with the world.

Unsure about the toy boy. It's been 10 years younger for several (!!) decades now, so they've got older.... I think a toy boy has to be no more than at most in their twenties?? I suppose it depends if you think of a toy boy as in a certain age bracket,  or as a certian number of years younger. There is a big difference to do with culture....... like 20 yr olds might not have even heard of The Beatles.

LoL@This is what's wrong with the world.

At the moment, I'm in a holding pattern and it'd take a pretty exceptional person to nudge me out of that.

I take it you mean like an aeroplane?

[Roland Deschain]

But Griffin, you're in your very early 40s/late 30s, so someone in their very late 20s would just about be your age bracket.

When I worked in a shop, I once had someone tell me not to blind them with science. Considering i'd just put my case to her in layman's terms, or so I thought, I was rather confused as to how the customer could have been so blinded. Then I thought of many of my other customers, and I soon resigned myself to the fact that there are many of them out there. Far too many. As a case in point, see the attached photograph from someone's Twitter feed. I seriously died a little inside.

[Griffin NoName]

Afraid that twitter exchange just made my giggle - but yes it is sad about the great uneducated.......

And of course, they haven't "been going" for 3,000 years, we had a coffee break.

[Sibling Zono (anon1mat0)]

And you thought YECs were shortsighted...

[Bob in a quantum-state-of-faith]

... 'tis a sad state of affairs to be sure.   So literal.  So concrete-for-brains.   *sigh*

To be confusing the symbol with the actual thing/reality, a common mistake.