For most of my daughters lives i've been of the opinion
me a grandmother
no way jose
but the last few months have found me absolutely -well--lusting for the honor of being a grandmother
I want a grandbaby!!
I really want my daughters to get busy (to borrow a phrase) and get me some
gran chillens
perhaps it is my own biological clock talking to me as I had my daughters quite young-but I find myself seeking out the infants section in stores, drooling over itty bitty clothing items, and oooing and ahing over various wee folks I see in public.
Now the one daughter is very serious and plans on getting married next year-- so perhaps if they choose to have children, I could be a grand mummy in about 21 months--ya know unless they wish to start sooner---but I am really trying very hard to not bug them about it-they are young and don't need a crazed woman with grandmom lust adding to their list of 'things to do'
The anthrochild tells me she will adopt-- Wonderful- they will be every bit my grandbabies--but come on --does she want help with the paper work I ask?
and she rolls her eyes
I think that I would even be overjoyed to have a grandpuppy or kitty or bunny or ya know!
Whatever babies my daughters and their intended mates choose to have--i'll be there with open arms and love to spare
so I have the grandparent bug badly
(and if perhaps they choose to not have children-- I will always support them and be there and be happy for them)
Quote from: anthrobabe
(and if perhaps they choose to not have children-- I will always support them and be there and be happy for them)
:thumbsup:
My paternal grandma snarked at me when mom & dad had a key anniversary, as I had nuthin to contribute to the "Our Granchillens" page in the Official Hallmark Anniversary Memorabilia Scrapbook®. I offered to list the names of all past and present cats, but she was not amused. ;) :catroll:
I understand the longing so well, Anthrobabe. I suffered it for a very long time. Mrs H and I took great care not to put any pressure on our daughters, but I reckon they could feel it anyway.
And now I love my Grandson Cap'n B even more than I could have believed back then.
Now #1 daughter is hesitating about having another and #2 has not yet remarried, so the odds are quite high I won't live to see another grandchild. Never mind, Cap'n B is great!
I really hope you get one soon, too!
I only got converted by the grandchildren's arrival. Now I drool. It is like having a good disease.
I can understand the appeal, grandchildren are sons and daughters of which you are not fully responsible of. I wouldn't mind a grandchild (in at least 15 years, mind you!) but I definitively don't want another child.. ;)
It sounds exactly like a biological clock ticking! I had absolutely no interest in babies until suddenly in my late 30's the thing went off and I was all about having a kid! I'm glad I heeded the call, as th'Opsalette is a joy of a human being. Part of it, I think, is that she knows she's loved and wanted in this world.
Never thought of grandparent clocks ticking, but if you love your kids I imagine you'd love to have a grandkid too. I know I still find myself gazing in admiration at little ones, wishing I could just pick 'em up and hug their little soft selves and listen to them rattle on about anything.
It's good not to apply too much pressure, though. I had some relatives who pressured me for years after I got married. I think it was only well after they'd given up that I was finally able to open my mind to the project. A person likes to think she's making up her own mind about this sort of thing, not just bending to pressure.
I hope they have 'em if and when they really want them. That makes the happiest kids. Doting grandparents are icing on the cake!
I love the grand cat idea and will welcome them-- truly I want a little being-a person that is our own baby --and not just biological an adopted grandchild will be my grandchild--
I'm trying not to pressure them- after all 23 and 20 are terribly young and I want them to enjoy their lives!
I agree that we've got to allow our children whom we've raised to make up their own minds about parenting--it is the biggest thing we truly do for another human being- parent them--
So for now I just try and quietly visit the baby section of the store and visit our 3 year old baby boy gorilla and almost 1 year old (A YEAR ALREADY???) baby boy chimpanzee and heap onto them all the oooohs and ahhhhs and lovins that I possibly can-but it is different especially now as I can not touch/hold them any longer--they are both growing so fast-- and it is now just finger tips through the bars now and dream and wish for my daughters the most wonderful lives possible
I've restrained myself somewhat from showering with gifts. But it is hard and I recently could not resist a superb fire-engine!
Griffin's right: it's hard not to buy every cute toy in sight and give them to the grandson. Problem - my daughter's small house is already bulging with toys and she doesn't want more!
Nevertheless as Cap'n B grows he needs different kinds of toy, so there is a turnover. Also, we're lucky to have a big house and he comes to stay quite a lot of weekends, so he has a lot of large toys that stay here.
Th'Opsalette was heaped with huge, marvelous toys from Mr. Ops' folks (He's an only child- so this was it for them). I finally had to let them know we didn't have room for it all, but appreciated all the little outfits. They go through those so fast, and they're so cute.
I am also enjoying teasing the daughters with the various phrases that I shall teach my most beloved grand babies-things like--we do it at grandmothers house
and grandmother did to say i could
and etc--
but it is teasing and I hope that I am a strong enough woman to allow my children to raise their families in their own manner -I beg from the Cosmos the gift of keeping my lips closed and my tongue in my head- unless asked- and then to give it graciously and not to be hurt if said rantings are not adopted.