Madly desiring to be a grandparent

[anthrobabe]

For most of my daughters lives i've been of the opinion
me a grandmother
no way jose

but the last few months have found me absolutely -well--lusting for the honor of being a grandmother

I want a grandbaby!!
I really want my daughters to get busy (to borrow a phrase) and get me some
gran chillens

perhaps it is my own biological clock talking to me as I had my daughters quite young-but I find myself seeking out the infants section in stores, drooling over itty bitty clothing items, and oooing and ahing over various wee folks I see in public.

Now the one daughter is very serious and plans on getting married next year-- so perhaps if they choose to have children, I could be a grand mummy in about 21 months--ya know unless they wish to start sooner---but I am really trying very hard to not bug them about it-they are young and don't need a crazed woman with grandmom lust adding to their list of 'things to do'

The anthrochild tells me she will adopt-- Wonderful- they will be every bit my grandbabies--but come on --does she want help with the paper work I ask?
and she rolls her eyes

I think that I would even be overjoyed to have a grandpuppy or kitty or bunny or ya know!

Whatever babies my daughters and their intended mates choose to have--i'll be there with open arms and love to spare

so I have the grandparent bug badly

(and if perhaps they choose to not have children-- I will always support them and be there and be happy for them)

[pieces o nine]

(and if perhaps they choose to not have children-- I will always support them and be there and be happy for them)

My paternal grandma snarked at me when mom & dad had a key anniversary, as I had nuthin to contribute to the "Our Granchillens" page in the Official Hallmark Anniversary Memorabilia Scrapbook®. I offered to list the names of all past and present cats, but she was not amused.
 

[Sibling DavidH]

I understand the longing so well, Anthrobabe.  I suffered it for a very long time.  Mrs H and I took great care not to put any pressure on our daughters, but I reckon they could feel it anyway.
And now I love my Grandson Cap'n B even more than I could have believed back then.
Now #1 daughter is hesitating about having another and #2 has not yet remarried, so the odds are quite high I won't live to see another grandchild.   Never mind, Cap'n B is great!
I really hope you get one soon, too!

[Griffin NoName]

I only got converted by the grandchildren's arrival. Now I drool. It is like having a good disease.

[Sibling Zono (anon1mat0)]

I can understand the appeal, grandchildren are sons and daughters of which you are not fully responsible of. I wouldn't mind a grandchild (in at least 15 years, mind you!) but I definitively don't want another child.. 

[Opsa]

It sounds exactly like a biological clock ticking! I had absolutely no interest in babies until suddenly in my late 30's the thing went off and I was all about having a kid! I'm glad I heeded the call, as th'Opsalette is a joy of a human being. Part of it, I think, is that she knows she's loved and wanted in this world.

Never thought of grandparent clocks ticking, but if you love your kids I imagine you'd love to have a grandkid too. I know I still find myself gazing in admiration at little ones, wishing I could just pick 'em up and hug their little soft selves and listen to them rattle on about anything.

It's good not to apply too much pressure, though. I had some relatives who pressured me for years after I got married. I think it was only well after they'd given up that I was finally able to open my mind to the project. A person likes to think she's making up her own mind about this sort of thing, not just bending to pressure.

I hope they have 'em if and when they really want them. That makes the happiest kids. Doting grandparents are icing on the cake!

[anthrobabe]

I love the grand cat idea and will welcome them-- truly I want a little being-a person that is our own baby --and not just biological an adopted grandchild will be my grandchild--

I'm trying not to pressure them- after all 23 and 20 are terribly young and I want them to enjoy their lives!

I agree that we've got to allow our children whom we've raised to make up their own minds about parenting--it is the biggest thing we truly do for another human being- parent them--

So for now I just try and quietly visit the baby section of the store and visit our 3 year old baby boy gorilla and almost 1 year old (A YEAR ALREADY???) baby boy chimpanzee and heap onto them all the oooohs and ahhhhs and lovins that I possibly can-but it is different especially now as I can not touch/hold them any longer--they are both growing so fast-- and it is now just finger tips through the bars now  and dream and wish for my daughters the most wonderful lives possible

[Griffin NoName]

I've restrained myself somewhat from showering with gifts. But it is hard and I recently could not resist a superb fire-engine!

[Sibling DavidH]

Griffin's right: it's hard not to buy every cute toy in sight and give them to the grandson.  Problem - my daughter's small house is already bulging with toys and she doesn't want more!
Nevertheless as Cap'n B grows he needs different kinds of toy, so there is a turnover.  Also, we're lucky  to have a big house and he comes to stay quite a lot of weekends, so he has a lot of large toys that stay here.

[Opsa]

Th'Opsalette was heaped with huge, marvelous toys from Mr. Ops' folks (He's an only child- so this was it for them). I finally had to let them know we didn't have room for it all, but appreciated all the little outfits. They go through those so fast, and they're so cute.

[anthrobabe]

I am also enjoying teasing the daughters with the various phrases that I shall teach my most beloved grand babies-things like--we do it at grandmothers house
and grandmother did to say i could
and etc--

but it is teasing and I hope that I am a strong enough woman to allow my children to raise their families in their own manner -I beg from the Cosmos the gift of keeping my lips closed and my tongue in my head- unless asked- and then to give it graciously and not to be hurt if said rantings are not adopted.